Happy hump day lovelies! I thought today I’d chat with you about a more serious topic that so many people, particularly women, can relate to- body confidence. If you’re hoping that this is going to be a “ra-ra love ourselves” post, it really won’t be. Not that I don’t appreciate those posts because I do! Feeling good about yourself is important to personal happiness. However, I’ve come to notice that body confidence has it’s own asterisks attached to it.
The other day, I was scrolling through my newsfeed when I came across a story about a personal trainer who had a baby and somehow still managed to get her six-pack abs back only a few weeks after having her baby. You would think that people would either want to know how she did or just keep scrolling, but no. Commenters jumped straight to body shaming her for her post-baby photos and saying that she’s a self-centered mom if she has time to work out. One person went so far as to say that women who are good moms don’t look like that. Ouch.
We often think of body shaming as only being geared towards people who are overweight. However, we leave out the people who are on the opposite end of that spectrum. What good is a message about loving ourselves and our bodies if it only applies to some people and not to others? Some people are built differently, have different metabolisms, and different athletic abilities. That’s ok. And being happy with how you look and even proud of it is such an important part of body confidence.
On the other side of the issue, is the push to love how you look even if you aren’t happy with it. Take me for example, I know I’m in the correct height-weight range for my age, but my pant size went up a little from last year and it’s driving me crazy. Should I shame myself for the weight gain? No, but there’s nothing wrong with wanting to fit back into the jeans I wore last fall either because they gave me confidence! Feeling good is part of looking good. Encouraging friends who want to feel good is part of sharing body confidence with others!
Next time you see a social media post from someone who is body confident, don’t shame or judge them for that confidence no matter how thin or big they are or what circumstances surround them. Women who really believe in body confidence, don’t do that to each other.