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Hey everyone! Today I wanted to share something personal and something that impacts so many other people- depression. Mental health awareness is so important for the health of our society and yet it still has a strange stigma around it. I thought my own experience with this was something that I could talk about to help remove the stigma one brick at a time.

Sharing my Struggle with Depression

So one thing you have to keep in mind while you’re reading this is that I’m not writing this to receive comments affirming how “brave” I am or on the contrary, that this blog post is just looking for attention. I’m writing it because it’s healthy to talk about mental health and we simply should.

Like every teenager, I had my bouts of depression (thank you changing hormones!) However, sometimes it wasn’t just crazy teenage hormones. Often enough, it was actual, real sadness. I certainly didn’t have anything to be particularly sad about, just typical teenage girl stuff. Once I got into college, anxiety kicked in and seemed to replace the depression for a while until I graduated. Right about this time, anxiety started to feed my depression and vice versa. Anxiety and depression are very closely related and tend to fuel each other.

Once I recognized how bad I was feeling and that it was starting to impact my habits, I knew I needed someone to guide me through it. This was when I began to realize the serious stigma around mental health issues. I had seen a psychologist when I was younger who helped me work through an irrational fear of ghosts (not Scooby-Doo kind of ghosts, actual ghosts.) But now I needed someone to work through something else that haunted me- depression.

Knowing that getting professional “help” was frowned upon or met with judgement, I kept this to myself, my family, and select friends. When anxiety medication was recommended by my doctor, I kept that piece of information to just my family because medication is met with even more judgement.

Let’s Ditch the Mental Health Judgment

Throughout my experience of trying to improve my mental health and doing everything I should to feel better, people still judge. What I don’t understand is why they judge. Depression doesn’t happen because I didn’t “decide” to be happy. Depression occurs due to a chemical imbalance in my brain. It isn’t because I’m crazy or because I just chose to be this way and to suggest such a thing is absurd.

I often wonder if maybe people wouldn’t snap if we recognized the signs of poor mental health and encouraged people to seek help. Or if people who need a clean bill of both physical and mental health to do their jobs (for example pilots) were given time to routinely talk with mental health professionals instead of being let go for even suggested that they’re feeling anxiety. I’m certainly no expert in this area but removing the stigma mental health issues have attached to them would certainly improve the lives of those impacted, including myself.

Since I’d love to see mental health’s negative connotations be replaced by positive ones, I’ve decided to be completely honest about it with friends, family, coworkers, and even my boss. I keep it light hearted, explaining that “hey, everyone needs to see one because we all feel overwhelmed from time to time.” People seem to get that.

If I’m speaking with someone who think depression or anxiety is “all in your head,” I explain my own feelings of depression and it makes it hard for them to deny my feelings. It plants that small seed of doubt in their mind and opens them up to the idea that just because they haven’t experienced depression doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

How You Can Help

To recap, depression is real and it makes it far worse when other people judge or doubt. What you can do is encourage friends and others around you to talk with a doctor about their depression or other mental health problems. You can also be open about your own struggles. Finally, you can share this post with friends or someone you know who might be struggle with depression to let them know you understand and care. It will mean more than you know!

 

 


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Happy Hump Day everyone! Getting to Wednesday is like an uphill battle but once I’m there, it’s golden! I wanted to chat about how to wear floral prints in fall. Similar to wearing white after Labor Day, people think you can’t or shouldn’t. I beg to differ. When done tastefully, it can be really pretty!

Choose the Right Color Scheme

In the spring, we think of pastel color schemes and Easter egg-like patterns. In the fall, we think of warm, rich burgundies and deep blues. When wearing floral during the fall, the color scheme you choose makes a difference! For example, the top I’m wearing from Social Seams Boutique features a series of dark blues, reds, and yellows. It works really well for October because it blends in with the colors and elements we already associate with the season. Also, use code Fall15 to get 15% off my top!

Choose the Right Floral

The colors matter but so do the actual flowers themselves. Choose patterns that features flowers that are typically found in the fall. Don’t attempt to wear something with a hibiscus plant on it or some other tropical, summery flower. It just doesn’t work. Go with traditional fall flowers!

Fall Memories

Whenever I think of fall flowers, I think of chrysanthemums. Every fall, my mom and I would go to the Amish market near our house and pick out a few mums to put on the front steps at our house. Usually, we’d choose the bright yellow mums but occasionally we’d venture out and buy burgundy. I can’t picture an autumn without mums on our front steps! Now that I have my own apartment, incorporating these flowers into my seasonal decor is a must!

Outfit Details

As I mentioned earlier, my top is from Social Seams and is only $24.99! I love that its an off the shoulder top and that it buttons up the front. I think it adds a little uniqueness to it! My white denim jeans are from Lucky Brand and they’re the Bridgette Skinny. I can’t find them on the website anymore (they were on clearance at the store) however my favorite fit is the Charlie Skinny. I’m linking this fit’s white denim skinny jeans that are similar to mine and just so happen to be on sale for $30! My red bag is from Coach (now called Tapestry?) and is super old but still a fall favorite of mine!

Comment with your tips for wearing floral prints during the fall! I love hearing from you guys!

*this post contains affiliate links and my top was gifted. All opinions are my own!

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Happy Friday! I honestly can’t go another day without at least a little break so I’m thrilled that it’s the weekend and I can finally relax for a bit. If you read my last post on my crazy work week schedule, you’ll understand why! I thought today I’d share a review of a few fall skincare products I’ve been testing out. For full disclosure, several of these items were gifted for me to review but all opinions are my own!

Dermarché Labs Review

Ok so let’s start with the Instant Skin Smoothing Masque. I’m always skeptical with these masques simply because I feel like its just a bunch of gunk I put on my face with no real results. However, I liked the feeling of this one and the result! My skin was definitely brighter and I didn’t look exhausted so that’s always nice!

Next, is the Hyaluronic Acid Topical Wrinkle Filler! Obviously, I’m too young to have wrinkles so I can’t tell you whether or not this product really does work to fix that but I can tell you that it helped with the circles under my eyes. Usually my eyes look a little sunken and tired but they were less noticeable when I used this product. It was also really moisturizing, which is nice during the winter months when your face dries out!

Becca Blurring Primer

Oh my goodness, I love this product! Its a face primer you use before you put on your foundation and it’s amazing. It has a silky texture that feels so smooth on your skin. You don’t need much for full coverage. The best part is that you don’t feel like you’re even wearing it! Winning!

Silicone Beauty Blender

I had seen silicone beauty blenders all over the place and finally decided to try one from a Korean company that was at Style Con. I honestly love it so much! It makes putting on foundation so easy and you don’t use half the foundation you would with a makeup brush. Plus, it’s a million times easier to clean- you just wash it with warm water after you’re done using it! During the summer months I wear a powder foundation but when it gets chilly again, liquid foundation is my go-to!

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Hey everyone! I wanted to share a more personal post with all of you about my job, health, and just a general life update. Normally, I like to talk about happy things like I did in my previous post, but sometimes life is more serious than that. It’s a little weird being so vulnerable on the Internet with people who I don’t really know that well so stick with me here!

Exhaustion

When you begin to feel exhausted, you feel your body and your mind kind of shut down. Your body has no energy, all you want to do is sleep. Your mind has no creative thoughts either. It sucks the life out of you. Long work weeks kill your brain power and make you more susceptible to sickness. I’ve had such a difficult time writing this blog lately because all of my brain power is used up during my work day leaving nothing for when I want to blog at night.

Depression

I’m genetically prone to being depressed and I’m certainly not alone in that. Unfortunately, it’s been proven that people who work excessively are also prone to depression, so between my work load and genetics, depression is definitely real for me. Of course, there are various depths of depression. The depression I experience from time to time is closely tied to my lack of energy and sleep.

Weight Gain

Oh my goodness. I stress eat like crazy! Any chip or slice of cheese in sight is mine and there’s nothing anyone can do to keep it away from me. Food comforts me and gives me a diversion from my problems. I’ve gained quite a few pounds since starting my new job. Of course, I’m grateful for any opportunity to gain experience in my career, but at a certain point (aka when I start gaining weight) it has to stop. I’m no longer gaining anything but weight.

Irritability

Certain sudden sounds, people’s voices, traffic, a sock on the floor, anything can just set me off! David’s thudding around annoys me more than it normally does and dishes in the sink drive me crazy. When you work 60 hours a week, everything starts to upset you. I’d love to be the relaxed person I was before, but until I learn to manage my work and my life, relaxation is off the table.

Please share your experiences with me. Have you ever been exhausted from working so much?

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Oh my goodness ya’ll! It’s October, aka the best month ever! From September through December I’m just a bundle of seasonal happiness. The leaves change, there’s a crispness to the air (jk I live in Texas), and it’s appropriate to have an absurd amount of decorations in your house. It’s just so lovely! Since I’m a big fan of decorating pretty much everything, I went on Amazon to browse their Halloween and fall items. I wasn’t disappointed.

I’m a proud Prime member and I order everything I can through Amazon, seasonal decor included. Although my boyfriend won’t be thrilled with me bringing anymore decorations into our apartment, he’s not in charge. So there. Take that David!

Halloween Decor on Amazon

Ok so let me tell you why I chose that adorable maple leaf tree over there. My mom always had a “fall tree” in our house that she would put up with little leaf ornaments and it just meant the world to me! It just felt cozy and comforting whenever you’d walk into our house. I loved it and I want one in my future home!

Also, let’s talk about that doormat. Am I the only one who loves a good seasonal doormat? I need one for every season! Unfortunately, my cat has taken to sharpening her claws on every single one I buy, but ultimately they’re one of my favorite outdoor decorations.

The final item I’m going to chat about is that adorable blanket scarf. If you don’t have one by now, you’re a lost cause. I have at least 4, probably more if I were honest. I wear them on planes so I can unfold them into a literal blanket because I always get seated next to someone who’s having a hot flash. Unfortunately, Texas heat hasn’t permitted me to wear one yet but in about 2 months it may get below 70 degrees and you better believe I’ll be wearing all 4 of mine at the same time. With a quilted vest, obviously.

Share your favorite Halloween traditions or decorations with me! I love hearing about them!

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Happy *late* International Coffee Day! I completely missed it on Friday and was kicking myself all day for not writing this before now. My job has me working 60 hours a week at times so keeping up with my blog and all of you guys kinda takes a back burner when I’m in desperate need of sleep. My bad guys! Anyway, coffee has a special place in my heart because it keeps me going even when I want to crash! But it’s hard to find yummy coffee that I know for fact is sourced ethically. Let me introduce you to the West Rock Coffee Company!

Coffee with a Purpose

West Rock Coffee Company sources their coffee beans from farmers all over the world, however it started in Rwanda. In 2009, the company revitalized an old coffee mill in Rwanda. Since then, they began sourcing their beans from farmers all over Africa and South America. To further assist the farmers producing coffee beans, West Rock Coffee Company teaches financial literacy and better agricultural practices to farmers enrolled in their Agribusiness Training Program.

I sometimes wonder when I drink certain coffees whether or not there was slave or child labor involved with the production of it. With West Rock Coffee I don’t have think about that because I know where my coffee is coming from and who produced it.

Coffee Review

Ok so the coffee they sent me is divine! The Rich & Robust flavor is my favorite! It’s really smooth and tastes way better than my usual go-to Folgers coffee. The K-Cups were also a really neat surprise because I love my Keurig coffee too! I’m dying to try the French press they sent me but I need to watch a YouTube video on using it before I put those precious beans in there.

One of my favorite things they sent in my package was that gorgeous orange and pink hand-woven bowl. It was made by one of the farmer’s wives in Rwanda and it is truly stunning! It will definitely be my table centerpiece for years to come!

Give West Rock Coffee Company a try! Their products are sold at Bed, Bath and Beyond and Kroger!

*Products were gifted. All opinions are my own.

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