Mental health, ya’ll- this is never an easy thing to talk about but I’ve blogged on this subject before and I got a great response from it, which tells me more people want to have this conversation!

As someone who deals with depression, or battles rather, I can tell you how hard it is to explain how you feel to someone who’s never experienced it. It’s even harder to explain when the other party already thinks its “all in your head” or that you can just choose to be happy instead. However, when the person you love doesn’t understand it, it can be heartbreaking.

My boyfriend David is learning to deal with my depression and how to help me, but its definitely been a struggle! So this post is for the significant others of people who are depressed to help explain everything as best as I can and more importantly, tell you how to love them unconditionally.

*Note depression can impact people in many other ways than what I’m going to describe, this is purely based on my experience.

Depression is Unpredictable

Depression is a strange thing. Some days I can function and then other days it hits me like a ton of bricks and it hurts to get out of bed. Certain times of the day can be worse than others too. Mid-afternoons and late evenings are usually the worst. Typically, when depression does hit me, it’s there to stay for awhile. Unfortunately, I can’t control when it happens and neither can the person you love. If we could, don’t you think we would snap out of it as its so commonly suggested?

Symptoms Vary

Depression symptoms vary from person to person. Web MD notes that the most common symptoms include hopelessness, guilt, irritability, loss of interest in hobbies, lack of energy, trouble concentrating, change in appetite or sleep habits, and aches & pains.

My boyfriend can probably attest to my irritability. Random things will set me off and then right after I’ll feel guilty and just turn into a sobbing mess. Your significant other might have other combinations of symptoms but this gives you an idea of what’s common.

Depression has Many Causes

If you’ve spoken with many people who are considered clinically depressed, you’ll notice that the causes of their depression tend to vary. Sometimes its the stress of their job, like it has been for me, other times their genetics can also play a large part. Sometimes there might not be a clear cause, its simply a hormonal imbalance. In a case like this, its particularly frustrating because often enough, medication is the only thing that can “cure” the depression.

Regardless of the cause, it’s important that you understand that depression is unique to the person experiencing it. Even more so, it’s vital that you don’t suggest to your love that the cause isn’t something that should make them depressed. This is, quite possibly, the most frustrating thing they can hear from you, which brings me to my next point.

It Isn’t Always Rational

My job made me incredibly depressed and anxious. I was constantly worried I’d be yelled at by my boss or that I’d be fired, which in turn made me more depressed. Trying to reassure me, my boyfriend said its just a job and to forget about it when I shut my laptop at the end of the day. As rational as that was, to me it was more than just a job and  depression wouldn’t allow me to think rationally about it.

An important thing to understand is that depression often takes you down a rabbit hole where one thought leads to another and rationality is thrown out the window.

Medication Doesn’t Mean Crazy

In my own battle with depression, I’ve taken several kinds of medication that would help balance my hormones. Sometimes they worked and other times not so much. Unfortunately, people who take depression medication are often given the “crazy” label or told that they don’t actually need it because “its all in their head.”

That line of thinking doesn’t help anyone. If the person you love has chosen to take medication, don’t brush off their hormonal need for it. While there certainly are cases of prescription drug abuse (which should be addressed immediately), the majority of time its just someone like me who wants to feel better and that’s likely the case for your loved one.

How to Love Them

Now that you have a better understanding of depression and how it impacts regular people like you and I, its important to talk about how to help and love them. Lucky for you this is a two-part blog series, which means next week I’ll be sharing tips and suggestions on how to love someone with depression. Hint: its’ not as hard as you’d think.

Stay tuned!


Happy Monday everyone! I’ve been sick lately which is why I haven’t been blogging much. The flu has been really bad this year and I wasn’t taking any chances. David and I have also been in limbo kind of with a bunch of decisions we’ve had to make and after awhile the stress and exhaustion of it all just wears you down. Hopefully I’ll be sharing  some exciting life updates with you soon!

Having been sick off and on for the last few weeks, I thought I’d share a few ways to feel better that I thought worked pretty well!

Drink Lots of Tea

Tea is one of those things that I never thought I’d like. I recently discovered a few yummy teas that are bit fruitier than others I’ve had and hated. Every time I drink a cup I feel so much better! My two favorites are this one and this one!

Use Essential Oils

I was skeptical about these oils until I actually decided to try a cheap one I found at Target. I love Eucalyptus and peppermint oils! These not only smell amazing but they help clear out your nose because they’re rather strong. Definitely give them a try in a diffuser!

Take a Hot Shower

My time in the shower is sacred. I can unwind, think about life, and just enjoy it. When I’m sick though, washing off all the impurities of the illness feels so good! You can also add a shower bomb like this one with an essential oil infused to really help open up your sinuses!

Cuddle with Your Furbaby

There’s nothing better than getting your kitty or puppy on the bed with you when you aren’t feeling well. My furbabies know when I’m not feeling right and they always want to be around me. Sometimes a cuddle with them is all I need to feel better!

Watch a Documentary

I can nerd out a little to historical movies and documentaries. They keep my mind off of things and I learn something in the mean time. I used to sit in bed when I was sick and watch old Mary Kate and Ashley movies (Passport to Paris anyone?!) but now that I’m a little older and don’t have much time on my hands, every minute spent watching TV needs to be at least somewhat stimulating.

Take care of your friends and family this flu season! I’m not sure why its been such a bad one but keep washing your hands and stay home if you’re sick. Spring is coming so keep that in mind too! The winter doesn’t last forever!

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basic invites

Oh my goodness. I can’t believe in a few short months I’ll be turning 25. Where in the heck did time go? I remember turning 15 and thinking 25 was old and now here I am, in my mid-twenties. Aging and birthdays are such strange things. As my dad says, “I’m in a 60 year old’s body but I don’t feel a day over 18.” I don’t feel like I’m old enough to be 25! But I’m still going to celebrate! I’m trying to figure out what my 25th birthday party will be but Basic Invite will be my go-to for super cute party invites!

Birthday Invites from Basic Invite!

So when I realized my birthday was coming up, I decided I wanted to plan an actual party of sorts or at least a gathering of friends to celebrate. Basic Invite and I worked together to create invitations online that might work. I started out by picking a few themed invites that I could customize. Every invite is completely customizeable with over 180 different colors! I loved choosing tons of color combos but ultimately I almost always go with something pink!

Because I had no idea what I really wanted in an invite or even a party (I mean, you can’t send surprise party invitations if you’re the one planning it), Basic Invite sent me custom samples of each invite I designed so I could see what it would look like before ordering a bunch. I really appreciate that convenience.

Basic Invite also offers and address capturing service that allows their customers to share a link on Facebook, Instagram, etc to request their friends and family’s addresses so they can store them in their Basic Invite account. Seriously, the only address I have is my childhood home address. I’ve often wondered how in the heck you collect so many addresses to send out invites but I guess this is how!

Planning Ahead for Everything

I was telling David what I wanted to do for my birthday and he was like “umm you have a few months to decide!” While that may be true, I like to plan pretty far in advance and having a party theme and a few cute invites I might like to send is the perfect way to plan ahead! Basic Invite also sends photo cards and I’ve been planning WAY far ahead for when David and I get engaged and I can send engagement announcements (hehe!)

Anyway, I’m so excited to be sharing this next year of life with you! When I finally figure out what I want to do for my birthday I’ll let you know! For now, I’m still debating my party theme and the appropriate invitation. Let me know what you think I should do for my birthday! Also, Basic Invite is offering 15% off with code 15FF51. Go take advantage of that!





*sponsored by Basic Invite

big breast problems

Bras. The worst, or maybe the best, clothing creation ever. Anyone who’s ever had to go shopping for one, try one on, or be measured for one knows how difficult it can be finding one that fits just right. I got my first bra when I was 10 and that sports bra served me well. Now, however, the options are endless and yet so limiting! For some women, finding a bra that fits is easier than it is for others, particularly if you don’t have as much to keep lifted. Women like myself routinely have bra problems that come in all forms and manifest themselves at different times. Let’s talk through 10 issues that women have with their bras.

1. Stores not carrying your size

When you walk into Victoria’s Secret and they measure you then say they don’t have your size and that you need to order online, it’s so disappointing. Granted, I rarely have this problem but I know a lot of other women who can’t try on bras in store simply because their sizes aren’t available. You’d think a bra store would have a wider range of bra sizes, but apparently not.

2. Trying to wear a bralette

HA! Nope, for me and other many other women the cute little bralettes are just not an option for several reasons. Namely because they’re meant to be cute, not really supportive and also because they come in small, medium, and large. None of these sizes usually work for me.

3. Running

Running is one of those things that I just can’t do without wearing multiple sports bras at once to keep everything in its place. Really anything that requires me to move fast will also warrant multiple bras. Why? Because when your chest keeps falling and hitting you again and again it tends to hurt a little!

4. Wearing strapless anything

Yeah I know they make strapless bras to wear under strapless dresses and tops but do you really think those things stay in place? After about an hour of wearing one, my strapless bra becomes more of a belt. No thank you.

5. Swimsuit shopping

Lord knows that this can be a nightmare. Forget the cute little bikinis some gals can wear- heavy duty suits are a must. My first “two-piece” when I was 13 was a women’s section navy blue number from Land’s End. Yeah, talk about a super cute swimsuit for a summer at the pool with my flat-chested friends. It sucked and still does.

6. Padding in bras

Do you really think I need that? Nope. I don’t need that in any way, shape, or form. The more padding in a particular bra style, the larger the cup size I’m going to need. It’s just not helpful.

7. Button-up shirts

I love classic button-ups but I hate the button aspect. I usually wear a size medium shirt, however I have to go a size up for button-ups if I don’t want the buttons to constantly pull and eventually fall off. While it may fit around my chest, rest assured my waist will look non-existent and I know I’m not the only one with that issue!

8. Bra strap marks

When you head to bed and fling off your bra the first thing you’ll notice after your moment of freedom is the deep, red marks on your shoulders from the straps. I’m sure most bra experts will say its a fitting issue, which it very well may be, however I’ve never not had a bra that did that.

9. Worrying you’ll accidentally flash someone if you bend down

No matter what kind of top it is (except turtleneck) bending down to pick something up can be a dangerous sport. I don’t want to flash anyone and I certainly don’t want anyone staring because its awkward and rude.

10. Wishing you could trade body parts with someone else

Every woman at one point or another has wished they could trade what they perceive as their undesirable body part with someone else. You know how backless or low-back dresses look so cute during the spring? I’d love to be able to trade my chest for a smaller one so I could wear one of those dresses!

Most people have something about themselves that bothers them or inconvenient and this so happens to be mine. Sure, we should all be thankful for the bodies we were given, but that’s easier said than done no matter what size we are! Share your bra problems in a comment below!

must have beauty products

Happy Monday everyone! I made a New Year’s resolution to myself that I’d start trying to wear makeup more often because of how it made me feel. So far, I’ve been doing pretty good! I love looking in the mirror and seeing a fresh face as opposed to one that’s tired. For Christmas, I got a lot of makeup and I wanted to share with you all a few of my beauty favorites that I’m really liking right now!

Marc Jacobs Full Coverage Foundation

I can’t say enough good things about this foundation. Its definitely on the pricey side but well worth it. I splurged on it one day at Sephora after trying it on and realizing how light it felt on my skin. I hate when my face feels like it has makeup on it, that feeling is gross. This foundation doesn’t do that at all!

Ouai Wave Spray

My friend Laila gave me this little travel size wave spray and its really good! After I wash my hair, I comb out the tangles lightly dry my hair, then I spray on the Ouai Wave Spray. It really makes my hair look like I’ve been by the beach. #SaltyHairDontCare

Clarins Self-Tanning Instant Gel

Bikini season starts in April here in Texas because it gets so warm early! Not only am I working on my fitness, I’m starting on my tan. I really like this self-tanning gel. It isn’t  oily and so far, so good- its gradually giving my skin a nice glow!

Clinique Pretty Easy Lipstick Palette

This lipstick palette is so neat! You can combine different colors and amounts to give you the color you like. I’m still experimenting with ones I like but this is definitely a great palette if you like finding your own perfect color.

Laura Mercier Velour Extreme Matte Lipstick in Dominate

Wow! I love this lipstick because it stays on forever! Influenster sent me two free samples of the matte lip and my favorite was the color “Dominate”. It’s really bold but goes on so nicely. This is more of a treat yourself item than anything because it is expensive but I think its worth it.

Benefit Cosmetics They’re Real Mascara

I switch mascara a lot just because most mascaras don’t do half of what they claim to. This one by Benefit I think is really good. I’ve been using the Rodan and Fields Lash Boost serum to grow my lashes and its really worked but in order to see them (my eyelashes are kind of light) I need some good mascara. This stuff does the trick!

Benefit Hoola Matte Bronzer

A good bronzer that won’t make you look orange or give you a difficult time when putting it on is hard to find. The Hoola bronzer is a really nice rich color and it comes with a brush made for applying it. Definitely take a peak at it!

If you have any questions about these products, let me know! Although I do use affiliate links to help me pay for my blog, my opinions on these products are honest-  I really do love them!

I’m seriously swooning over every pink and red thing here! Between the Sur la Table mug and that cute little Valentine’s tree from Kohl’s- I’m going to buy so many things I have nowhere to put! I can’t help but love every holiday- especially Valentine’s Day! So I had to share these adorable love-day items that I found while browsing over the weekend. As much as my boyfriend would like to believe that Valentine’s Day is made up, its totally not! It has historical origins, however those origins didn’t involve lots of pink and red everywhere, which is how my apartment is going to look soon!

This weekend I’m painting my nails red, hanging up my Valentine’s garland, and buying myself a big heart wreath to put on our front door! Also taking a trip to Kate Spade to check out that adorable purse! Like seriously, who comes up with this stuff on their creative team??

Share with me your Valentine’s Day plans if you have any! Also I’d love your suggestions on what David and I should do!