Remember those new Under Armor running shoes I talked about? Well, I still haven’t used them much at the gym and they aren’t really broken in yet. However, I like many ladies, have learned to use my running shoes for an unintended purpose: chasing after a guy. I bought these shoes at Dick’s Sporting Goods, not on the eHarmony website, and yet I seem to be metaphorically using them for the wrong thing! Smart one, Liz.
I don’t think I’m the only girl who is misusing her running shoes though. The more I talk to girls from all over the country (and even the world), they all seem to be doing this too. The question is why? Why do girls put themselves through this? I don’t know the answer honestly. I can speculate that maybe it’s because we know that the guys we’re interested in won’t bother to try and chase us down. It could also be because guys know that women will come to them, thus eliminating the notion that they have to put a little effort in too. It’s anyone’s guess though.
The point is that girls are feeling like if they don’t do the “chasing”, then the guys they’re interested in won’t be bothered with them and might even move on to another girl who IS trying to snag him. Curiously enough, relationships where only one party is trying to make it work typically don’t last too long. It has to be a mutual effort. The romance and all that jazz is only worth it when both people are willing to give 100% to it. Otherwise, it’s one person doing all the work and one person enjoying the benefits.
I’m personally vowing not to be a “chaser” anymore. It’s one thing to be a little flirty while illustrating one’s interest in the guy, but it is quite another to be doing all the leg work in getting his attention and admiration. Ladies, I challenge you to make this vow too! We are beautiful, smart women that want men who see our value and know that not pursuing us would be a grave mistake. Simply put, let’s not sell ourselves short.
A girl doesn’t need anyone that doesn’t need her.